Thursday, November 1, 2012

Resiliency is developed through... (Part 1) post 11-1

Ask the Cardinals...They put up a good fight against the San Fran team, but San Fran persisted and showed their best against Detroit in the 2012 World Series.
What does it take to develop resiliency in a child?  How do "we" get children to take ownership of their own educations?"  We can't do it for them but can guide them into wanting it for themselves.
The opposite of insecurity, confidence is built on encouragement.  This encouragement must come from someone of value and esteem in a young persons life.  Shallow, empty or trite comments add little and if offered incorrectly, can detract from the confidence of the hearer.  This confidence is different than an arrogance based on an overinflated ego.  True confidence is based on an accurate self-assessment and awareness, which is exactly where our youth's struggle is the greatest.
As mentioned above, this positive approbation is only valuable after authentic relationship between the two parties is established.  Encouragement, from others, leads to affirmations that can only come from within!  Affirmations are personal but follow positive
Learning to play along with others by balancing selfish desires and group needs forms the foundation for valuing the considerations other points of view as valid and defines cooperation.  Working in groups, teams or in pairs is often a quest of employers.  People without resiliency tend to focus internally and their self-reflection becomes critical and not beneficial, holding them back from true success through cooperation.
In Summary,
A healthy relationship with a caring adult, willing to share and confront, yet maintain a perspective of love and acceptance of the person-hood builds resiliency.  Resiliency develops and matures as caring adults overlook shortcomings of youth but address behaviors that could morph into tragedies. 

We train our dogs but we educate our children.


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